I just find it so discouraging, after constant dealings with people in different fields of work to always have things come down to the same bottom line. They almost all seem to have that 'Me First' attitude, no one will help you unless it directly benefits them.
I have actually seen people go more out of their way not to help when just helping would have saved them time and energy, what is the point in that? Where are people's morals?
I really always try and find the best in most bad situations and I can almost always find a way to put a positive spin on ANYTHING. But in my heart, deep down in side I am losing faith in human kind. The good people are so sparse.
Here are some examples, lets start with my most recent experience. I purchased a car from a buy here pay here place---> Living Stone auto group in Easton, PA. I researched and could not find one bad thing on these people, so I went in with high hopes and the man was very well versed, he sounds like a stand up guy. Of course he tells you he is a stand up guy about 50 times in a half hour conversation mostly geared at listening to him talk himself up.
I go take the car for a ride, I had him drive so we could pay attention to noises etc plus I am not familiar with the area. He puts on the heat and talks non stop on the whole test ride.
I go all in and buy the car, gave him all my money $2,500 down with 6 references, then paid my taxes etc . My monthly payments are $275 for 20 months.
I go home park the vehicle and I was off from work the next two days, on day 3 I go drive the vehicle to work, come out of work and turn it on and the check engine light comes on. I immediately take it to my mechanic - he says it has to do with emissions. Not to worry I will just have to fix it before inspection, two days later the abs and brake light come on and stay on and I notice the heat does not work in the rear seats section, also my front heater only works on high and the passenger side window can only be operated from the driver side. Hmm ok well lots of little annoying things, so I take it to my mechanic he clears the code when he checks the check engine light but didn't get to see why the brake light was on and now it was clear so now I have to make it there in time when the light is still on, that would be interesting to pull off because it goes on and off. He fixes the heater issue and does an oil change per my request $145.
Now comes the next month, I make my payment and a week later I notice it is leaking anti freeze. So I take it back to my mechanic and it is a hose, a big hose that ends up costing me 2 days work (since I had to stay home while it was in the shop) and $208 and although I did get a warranty it does not cover any of these things thus far.
Now here we are, two weeks after this last repair and now the radiator is leaking from the front of the vehicle.
Okay now I am mad, I have been vocal with the man who sold it to me but he seems so full of shit I just say Okay and move on, his response (regarding the abs light's)was 'let me get you the part at a discount rate' what good is that? ok so you are going to have me drive there to give you money to get me a part then drive to my mechanic and drop it off .. and pay him anyway to put it in? I see that as more of a hassle.
This time however, I went a little further, I told him I no longer want this vehicle it is not reliable and it is just way to problematic. His response is that I am 'attacking him' and that he refuses to help me because I was not very nice to him, that at this point I can fix the car myself or give it back. Of course if I give it back who wins? and if i fix it who wins? Him.. and oh yeah HIM.
Instead of understanding my right to feel frustrated and to be upset he attacks me back by telling me he washes his hands of it, no really I did not expect much more from him. He says that he was willing to help me get a part last time at cost ooooh gee really that is so kind of you sir.
This man, is the prime reason of why I will never trust a car sales man. EVER. Sweet talk you, tell you (and believes it himself) how great he is and what kind of good person he is but then washes his hands of the lemon he sold me, I know it was used but come on from day 3 it has been nothing but trouble. He expects me to believe he did not know about the codes? he did not clear the engine code or brake codes? they came on the first time I really drove it, I find that too coincidental.
I know he may not have known about the radiator (but I am not 100% he didn't use stop leak) but I find it repulsive that he instead chooses to shift the blame and refuse to help me because I was 'attacking' him. Grow up - Of course I was angry wouldn't you be angry too, one thing after the other and no one who cares.
Instead of saying okay, let me take the vehicle back and let me get you something else and we are even he instead says fix it or return it I already got most your money.
Disgusting.
So I plan to just drive it and hope for the best, I will keep anti freeze on me until I find something else then he can have it back and use all the money he got for it for free to fix it up and resell it. He will face karma one day. I have to just let it go and do what is best for myself and my family, I refuse to keep sinking money into this mistake.
I was then talking to my daughter about getting her hair cut and we were talking about if they would consider her hair long, her hair is about shoulder blade length and I said I consider that medium length but if you go to a salon they will tell you it is long and charge you extra to cut it lol cause they are all scam artists, just like car salesman.
I am now filling out a application for pre-k and I have to send them $50 in an application fee - really? Another scam, what is that $50 for? they aren't checking into anything background wise - they are not using any of their resources.. this money does not come off my tuition when she starts, it is not to hold a spot then when she starts they say ok here we will apply it to your tuition. No they just pocket it, a bogus fee just to take advantage of people.
I am so tired of people getting over on other people, where is your conscience? where are your morals? Where is your dignity? What is wrong with people?
I think sometimes, that you never know people even if you really think you know someone. It is what they do when they think no one is watching that tells you who they really are, I cannot tell you how many times I have set people up and found them to be really just disgusting people. Behind a computer they can unleash their darkest desires and no one will know.
I say put spy software on your computer and find out who you are really dating, put hidden cameras in your house and see who is really cleaning or babysitting in your house.
I hate to have to feel this way but I have yet to be proven wrong, as much as I always try and find positive in a negative situation I cannot find the same in the people I interact with, if there is not something in it for them people are rarely interested. The ones who are, usually want to pat them selves on the back, they will make sure everyone knows they helped you out, or they want everyone to know they donated to a cause or held the door open for someone.
We all do it to some extent and this way that I have of analyzing people and judging situations makes me a person who always hopes for the best but expects the worse.
I will always probably have one best friend and a ton of 'associates' and will probably never get married.
Realist --- maybe, bitter -- no.
Sometimes I wish I could really be wrong, just once in a while.
